We happened to be away from home the weekend of October 7th — in Orlando, at Disney of all places. My husband has some work there. We returned to Orlando this weekend for the first time since 10.7 and the condo and surroundings were suddenly live-wires of remembered trauma. I sat anxiously in the bed I was in when I got the text from my Mother-in-Law that they were in a shelter and were fine. I walked on the green-roof with my kids, which brought back to me Hamas’ initial declaration that they would publicly behead hostages until the siege was lifted. I starkly remember this moment perhaps most of all, as that was when the happy facade I’d put on for our children crumbled and I called my parents sobbing, crying over and over for what I described as “my people, my family, my friends.” A declarative statement I first made over fifteen years ago, when I chose to covert to Judaism.
I’m an odd convert of sorts, in that I’m not overly observant, but you’d be hard-pressed to find someone more committed to the Jewish community. My entire academic career, professional identity and most of my personal life revolves around it. The significant thing, perhaps, is that my initial Jewish identity is one rooted in historical trauma. While I had long been obsessed (may be an understatement) with Jewish history, my desire to become Jewish did not coalesce until the summer of 2007 when I was in Poland. It was in this crucible of the death camps, where so many were killed simply because of a mantle of identity that they had not necessarily chosen to shoulder, that I was inspired to take that yoke upon myself. To put it mildly: I knew what I was getting into when I chose this. But the years have passed and the world has changed. As Israel, and lately more and more the Jews, face increased isolation on the world stage, the significance of this choice has changed with it.
Times of crisis are ripe for reflection. It is easy to choose this identity when you’re standing under a chuppah, dancing at a wedding, walking a track at a summer camp in Muskoka with your kids, or eating your favourite Iraqi soup in the shuk. It is much harder to reckon with this choice when faced with devastating violence, antisemitism, dehumanization and fear. I have to admit, when I chose this life, I never imagined I would choose this. I have fallen so many times, shed so many tears, worried about my children’s future many hours into the night — a future, it never really occurred to me, might be in question. And from October 7th until sometime mid-December, I have to admit, I walked like a ghost through the world I had chosen.
I sometimes wonder if converts can inherit the generational trauma of the Jewish people. While I somehow doubt that epigenetic trauma-by-proxy exists, I personally feel like my actions and reactions in the past few months have been deeply informed by the traumatic nature of the Jewish history that I study. The Jewish story in the West has been marked by periods of subjugation, privation, and fear, with the violence reaching its zenith in the Holocaust. It is this last era that is my academic focus. Some of my friends and family attributed my inability to cope in October and November as a result of the fact that I was born outside of the community — I had never been “prepared” for it like they have. But I think it’s more than that.
As a historian, I cannot help but try to understand today through the past, how history has informed the present moment. I read the papers, I engage on social media, and I see stark similarities to the mid-1930s. I sometimes feel (inaccurately) like I’m experiencing some of what Jews in Germany did; that this need to make students understand the relevancy of that period to their lives today has taken over mine. In a recent class, I was parsing Hitler’s 1939 speech before the Reichstag, and I felt a cold swell of fear as I realized how much of the terminology he used to describe Jews in society, how he manipulated history to serve his political ends, how easily he could justify violence against us by arguing that we brought it on ourselves— these are all words we’re seeing variations of right now.
I feel a great fear for my children and guilt towards my parents; I know that their lives are suddenly much, much harder, with a daughter, son-in-law and three beautiful grandchildren under threat. While my father is firmly supportive of the State of Israel’s right to exist and defend itself, he is particularly troubled by the scale of the war — both because he is a moral man and no one wants civilians dead — but also because it’s unleashed a wave of antisemitism abroad that he feels Israeli policy should be shaped by. His political opinions are becoming motivated…
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